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What is BDSM?
BDSM is an erotic sexual activity involving consensual power plays between two or more partners. BDSM stands for the Bondage & Discipline/ Dominance & Submission/ Sado-Masochism. Means a BDSM play include bondage, discipline, dominance and submission to make the sexual life more erotic and better. One partner control and dominant another partner to make them sexually active. The Dominant is responsible for administering the act and The submissive is receives the administer act.
BDSM play is all surround by the application or reception of physical, psychological, and emotional pain. It is mutual enjoyment between the partner. If one partner is not ready to give or receive the physical and psychological stimulation, then it is not ideal. When you and your partner is ready to bear the stimulation, go for it.
BDSM has turned into a way of life, with its own set of guidelines and rules, a culture people practice keeping in mind the end goal to enjoy the sexual life by different types of BDSM accessories or toys. Also, toys used in BDSM are not limited to this category, but normal Vibrators toys and Dildo toys may also be used for masochists. Similarly for women who are masochistic, S women may use male masturbators for men. The world of BDSM does not fit in this category alone.
History of BDSM
The first ever BDSM practice was seen in the fifth century BC. The archaeologists discover the textual records containing images of whippings and flagellation. The images clearly show that it is for the erotic purposes. It is also mentioned in the ancient Kama Sutra that the hitting, biting, and pinching can include in the lovemaking that has been following now a day in modern BDSM.
Types of BDSM
There are many different flavours of activities that go under the BDSM act and are great starters. Let's check the various type of BDSM that you can try in the bedtime with your dom or sub partner. These should be possible exotically or taken to extremes.
BD - Bondage and discipline
Bondage and Discipline include controlling the partner by tied up or restrained for the sensual enjoyment, aesthetic show, or somato sensory incitement by following the SSC rule(safe, sane and consensual) incorrect behaviour. The dominant partner is compulsive and the submissive partner should obey him/her.
DS - dominant and obedient
The sexual relationship that arises through agreement and followed by both partners. It can be used when both partners have trust on each other absolutely.
SM - sadism and masochism
This type of BDSM includes the inflicting pain, whether physical or mental. A various act done by BDSM toys to causing or experiencing pain in the body. The sadist makes discomfort for the masochist partner by inflicting the type of pain in its body.
Popularity of BDSM
Nowadays, the enthusiasts of BDSM are much more than we think. It is far better than it was a few years ago. However, there seems to be plagued by the prejudice of the world. It is considered a transformational abnormal behaviour, but there is no such a thing at all. While it is interesting for sexual life, not a bad thing.
Soft BDSM and toys that are easy to incorporate into sex
The Soft BDSM or SM play is absolutely for the beginners. Hard BDSM has much resistance but soft BDSM will matches to the regular sex without any resistance. It includes painless toys and behaviour, it gives a bit of shame in the ordinary sex. Soft BDSM is perfect for new stimulus in the regular sex that is soft and comfortable.
What is soft SM?
Soft SM is soft and makes you ready to get comfortable with the SM play. It is an act without pain but yes it is more erotic, slightly more stimulating than usual, and something new for the bedtime. Soft SM includes the moderate blunt words and tying with the blindfolds or any other SM toys.
Now a day's sex pleasure become boring due to a busy life and imbalanced lifestyle. Due to a tension of daily life activities people don't have time to express their love. As per one of view, I want to make my sexual pleasure more interesting and surprising by foreplay activities like smooching, kissing, stimulating activities to make sexual drive memorable but unable to do.
Why became boring
The common people are attracted to the opposite sex and develop a deep bond and fallen in the love. And became a life partner someday. The healthy relationship goes well with better sex. What, if sex is unchanged. The usual way of sex can lose the spark in life. Life became boring with usual sex.
Boring is a state in which freshness and irritation have appeared in the life. The sexual sensitivity is lost and everything gets is expected in the sex. To keep the sexual interest same, you need to bring the new techniques and exercise that is not usual and expected.
Fresh sex with new stimulus with SM
One of a way to keep the sex life healthy and amazing is SM play. If you have a love and trust relationship, it is for you. SM play is most suitable sexual play for the deep trust relationship.
It is a new stimulus in your usual and ordinary sexual life. It is special and allows a different way of fun with different players in SM play. SM play is stimulation of sex. It is one opportunity for greatness in the bedtime.
Are you S? M?
It is not fixed that S would be men or women or You should act as S or M? It totally depends on the sexual excitement, the one where he/she find the sexual excitement. It is obvious that the BDSM behaviour is unexpected to the regular life. For the role of S and M, it is necessary to match suitability and role.
Man are S? Women are M?
Well, it is not anything like that Men are S(Sadist) always or Women are M (Masochist) always. But men are always blamed on a side. Men have strong desire to control and to conquer, it can say to be S. Where women are mostly passive and enjoy the service serve by the S, so it can be said as M.
It does not depend on the daily behaviour or daily lifestyle. It depends on the sexual excitement, where men or women feel in the play world of SM. The passive action includes the scolded or abused in play or stimulates shame, violation, spiritual excitement. It is sedative at that time and it will heal with time.
Be careful to be a selfish S
It is quite common in every second person that they misunderstood the right meaning of Sm. SM play does not mean to hurt the Masochist partner. Sadist peoples misunderstood and for the self-pleasure and fun, they do what they want without thinking about the masochist. This is not the true meaning of Sm. SM relationship is based on trust and it is S responsibility to take cares of his/her Masochist. This is a sign of true gentleman in SM Play.
What is ideal S for M?
From the recent study, the women with M qualities are rapidly increasing gradually. Means most of the men then act as S (Sadist) in SM play. Whether M role by women or men, M has to awake about their role.
M does not mean to hurt, disgusting behaviour, suffering pleasure. Sadist has to take care of M and shows their etiquettes in the SM play. SM has a rule SSC (Safe, Secure and Consensual). The true Sadist who follows the basic rule of SM is ideal for all M.
Act as Sadist and having slaves is not easy. They have some responsibility that he/she should follow. In that respect, "spiritual play" as well as "play including intellectual elements" can also be said. First, they fully understood each other because safety is crucial. Talk about everything for the SM to eliminate the awkward stage.
Carrot and Stick
Carrot and Sticks refer that to hit a horse with a stick and run it, but also reward them with carrots. In the same way in SM world, SM is not only pain but also pleasure will be raised by raising rewards. For example, using a bondage whip in SM play leads to the blaming and hurting. But it also gives pleasure by activating the sensitive nerves.
Easy to introduce toys and tool
From the availability of various BDSM gadget from soft to hard. It is always fear and resistance feeling for the hard leather goods and metal BDSM toys all of sudden. Whereas the soft BDSM toys that restrict the vision, hearing or any other body parts are easy to introduce and comfortable to use at first attempt.
The colour, texture and structure have a strong impression as well in the user's sight. The Restrict mobility and shackles structured BDSM toys might be fearable. To face the fear, it is suggested - first introduce yourself to the lightly BDSM toys like towels and strings.
Also, you can try vision and hearing restriction gadgets like blindfolds, bondage masks, earplugs, etc to make yourself familiar with the BDSM sex toys. These light SM toys can introduce the less resistance.
Easy SM diagnosis
How to find that your opponent wants S or M for the SM play? Here, we prepare three simple famous SM diagnoses that help you. These simple gestures are easy to do and easy to revert. It will be a chance for a bit of conversation and body touch.
First gesture, hold the fingers and made a fist with thumb side up. Let's easily say to a partner "Please take this on hand." with your fist. If your opponent put a fist on fist means its S. If they put a palm over the fist means its M.
Second gesture is, put hands in a fist and put it forward with the thumb is on. Now, ask the other person "To place your chin on my hand". While the opponent putting chin on hand. At that time, if the other party is looking at yourself means it S. If the other party does not match with yourself means its M.
Third gesture, Showing the nails. If your opponent shows the nails with the back of your hands up means it S. If they show their nails with palm up means its M.
Invite your partner to SM world
Although the selection of the tool is highly depended for the first time. It is ideal to try themselves SM tools first and recognize the way it uses and for the security concerns and anxiety. SM is all about the trust.
If you haven't trust relationship with your partner, then SM play is not possible in any situation. Fear cannot proceed to win. If you partner is fear of SM, try to eliminate the hard image at first in her/his sight is good. It is important to step slowly and gradually step by step. Strictly no to suddenly bondage or any SM play. Begin with light flow and observe partner reaction to increase the level.
Type or Gadgets of BDMS
Various types of BDSM gadgets that are used to enhance the BDSM play. All BDSM gadget eliminate the verbal communication and enhance the soul communication. Let's check included creative gadget for BDSM play. The below sort of list is handled by us.
Usage and Note
BDSM is all to add more fun and interest in the sexual life. Different type sod BDSM toys have a different way of use and different function. But the aim is same, just to enhance user's sexual life. The most common BDSM Gadget is Bondage Collar. Bondage Collar indicates who is Dom and who is Sub. The one who wears the collar is The Sub.
Although BDSM act is totally based on the trust. If you have a strong mutual relationship, then couples can enjoy the BDSM act. But still, it is good to fix some safe words for the act. So whenever the Sub feels discomfort, he/she will let know the Dom. It is the primary thing that you should consider. And be careful while using any type of BDSM gadget. Do not go with the tight or fixed BDSM. Only allow that is bearable for the Sub easily.
Bondage refers to tying and restrict the partner. If you are confusing what to get for the first BDSM play, then here the suggest you some basic BDSM gadgets that you can try. Every gadget has a different way of use, that is also mention. So do not waste time and quickly find your suitable bondage and begin your BDSM play in sex.
BDSM handcuffs are used in bondage situation to restrict the partner's hands or legs. It is beginner SM toys and can perfect for the Soft SM play. Basically, it is a pair of two connected rings that wear around the wrists or ankles.
The handcuffs are usually made by the leather, soft fur, plastic or metal and available with the key, buckles or velcro. Dom partner controls the sub partner movement by restricting its both hands or legs together or with any bondage furniture. By using the bondage handcuff, the dom partner able to caressing and teasing the sub partner as they want.
Spankers & Ticklers
Spankers and Tickler are used to activate the sensational feeling in the body. The spanker is a broad leather belt and ticklers are long and soft feathers collection. These both SM toys are used to tickle a partner's skin. These are perfect for the light BDSM act or foreplay.
The soft movement with the tickler on the erogenous zone like a nipple, clitoris, necks can produce the most erotic sensation. And soft and gentle spanks with the spankers gives you unexpected arousal for the sexual act. The pairing of spankers and ticklers is best for the first SM play.
Blindfolds, Masks & Gags
Blindfold and masks are head accessories used to restrict the partner to see. Whether mouth gags restrict the partner to speak. Begin your SM play with Blindfold, masks and mouth gags and completed your bondage. These blindfold and masks heighten the sense of feeling, tease the partner and surprise them to erotic sexual act.
It is absolutely for the beginners. It adds soft and comfortable feel in the SM play because it is made of leather or any soft material. Mouth gags are weaned over the mouth so a sub is unable to restrict you and gives you chance to explore her/his body without any disturbance.
Nipple & Clitoral Toys
Nipple & Clitoral Toys is a type of BDSM sex toys that are used to make your nipple and clitoris more sensitive. Nipple toys are available in two categories, nipple clips and nipple clamps. In which nipple clamps are comfortable and beginner friendly. Together use of nipple toy can clitoris toys can double the sensitivity of your sensitive zones and skill all-over orgasms.
The degree of pressure of nipple clamps and clitoris clamps are adjustable. It is great sex toys for the SM play. These toys have a choice, they also available in the hands-free technique.
Cock & Ball Toys
Cock & Ball Toys are SM toys for the males. Cock and balls are in the form of rings or sleeves or an object that works only on the penis and men's testicles. These toys are made of metallic or elastomeric. Women can find exciting in the cock and ball sex toys, but some of the men do not feel comfortable with these cock and balls toys.
Although, ball and cock toys not only enhance the excitement in the men it also works in dry orgasm and wet orgasm issue, that why couples use to prefer cock and balls toys in the bedtime. The cover on the penis can arouse the penis nerves by control the flow of blood.
Electro & Medical Fetish
Electro & Medical Fetish is not so common type of SM play. In Electro fetish, the user uses electro toys to stimulate the genital parts by the electricity, whether through the batteries or rechargeable. The correct electrical energy on the erogenous zones makes the moment arose. Where medical fetish includes the medical-themed sexual fetishes.
A user brings medical equipment or dress up like doctor/ patient and allow the fun to begin. User act and use medical equipment to examine the vagina or penis to make them aroused. The role play is also a part of SM play.
Chastity device is like a garment for the intimate sensitive part that controls the sexual intercourse. Couples use it in SM play to tease the partner but restrict them sexually and arouse them more during sexual intercourse. Chastity devices are available for men as well as for women.
It is like a cage over the penis or vagina, so it is also known as cage toys. A couple not only used chastity device to avoid sexual act but to avoid oral sex and manual stimulation. Chastity device is available in many sizes, so a user can get their perfect sit. Dom partner operates the chastity devices with the inbuilt small padlock.
Bondage Rope & Tape
Bondage rope and bondage tapes are used for the erotic bondage. By the use of rope or tapes, one can control the freedom of the partner. It can restrict the movement of partner. It is absolutely beginner SM toys. It is used in SM play to tie the partner hands, legs or any other body part.
Where ropes are held by the knots and tapes has adhesive material that automatically sticks to the partner's skin. By restricting the partner by rope or tapes, the Dom is free to tease and enjoy the Partner's skin or body. Even the ropes are reusable, a user can use it again in next SM play. Where some of the tapes are reusable and some are not.
Recommended Pickup Item
We introduce several recommended BDSM toys at our site. It is a recommended toy from beginner to advanced.
TOKYO Girl Honey 5 Mouth lock Pink
TOKYO Girl Honey 5 Mouth lock is best ball gag BDSM gadget. It is available in attractive pink colour. It is made of non-toxic material and comfortable to use because it is Velcro type. Due to Velcro based, it is adjustable and a user can manage the fixing according to their head size.
Where I actually used it was like this
I always looking for the mouth gags that can perfectly fit my mouth and TOKYO Girl Honey 5 Mouth lock Pink is absolutely for me. It is wondering what this white-dotted gag will stay in the place during my SM play. It is soft as well on the face skin. Although the velcro of a belt can make easy for me to wear the mouth gag on the place.
RED Hoipping is leather spanker and Tickler. It is good for the beginner if use with little pressure. It is easy to hold because of a metallic ring at below. The spanker is best to show shoe wildness in the SM play. It is ideal BDSM accessory for the gentle SM play.
Where I actually used it was like this
I received the spanker as promised and in wonderful condition. This is my first spanker toys. When I use it in my SM play with my partner. It is comfortable to grab due to leather. The handle part is too flimsy. My partner said it is not as painful as I thought. Well, it is interesting an good to use. We both love it.
Bondage tape 18m Red
Bondage tape 18m Red is all purpose tape for the SM play. Can be used as rope as well as a blindfold. It is absolutely safe to use and do not stick to skin or hair. This tape is available in many colours. It is easy to use in restrict and easy to remove after satisfied SM play.
Where I actually used it was like this
I purchase this bondage Tape in red colour for the soft SM play. I restrict my partner upper body and hands together with the tape, then I noticed that I have nothing to stop them to see. I use this bondage tape over the eyes as well. I do not face any difficulty like a gum tape in this versatile tape. It does not stick to hair like gum tape and very powerful as well.
KIKKOU Bondage Belt
Kikkou Bondage Belt is easy and stylish body harness. It restricts the whole upper body of the partner. Butt, waist, length, upper arm, wrist, each belt easily adjust the length of the respective part. It's all harness belts are adjustable and perfect for the beginners as well.
Where I actually used it was like this
When I act as M in SM play. My S partner wants to see me in the KIKKOU Bondage Belt wear. He will adjust all the harness belt and use other SM gadgets as well as blindfolds, etc. It is comfortable to wear and do not make rashes like other belts do. I have collected from Bondage belt but KIKKOU is the most comfortable one and makes our SM play successfully.